RESPONSIBILITY IN RELATIONSHIPS

Tying Relationships to Responsibility

  • Great teams have great relationships
  • When there’s a fight always remember to come to a conclusion/compromise

 

Three points on Conclusions/Compromises

  • Compromise on opinion – when everyone receives 100% value in the decision
    • Things that cause us no harm when people disagree – ie, deciding on a carpet color
    • Duke it out behinds closed doors but present with unity
    • Everyone wins
  • Compromise on Principle – someone will receive zero value based on the decision, the decision violates the very principle itself. 
  • Principle of Responsibility – there are two sides
    • One: “people need to accept their responsibility”
    • Two: “its not their fault”
    • Responsibility has nothing to do with reducing or blaming people
    • Responsibility is about hope and control
    • People blame parents, environment, weather, etc on where they are in life – no control or hope

 

Power of Accepting Responsibility

  • Means we know we have the power and control to change the future
  • If I end up where I don’t like because I made choices to get me there, I can also end up where I do like if I make choices to get me where I want (control and hope)

 

When we take responsibility for our relationships, we can lead through our narrative, we then have the power to make anything better than it was